The troubled areas are not areas for growth … in fact it is the exact opposite. I was doing this experiment in which I used to post a problem and suggest a solution, normally the solution will be something from my environment or depend on an experience I been through or someone around had such. And when I started to broaden my understanding span and check on other environments or cultures I started to realize how small I am and how small is my perspective, like i was in small box and think it is the universe or the world.
The people who interacted to my posts admired my way of thinking and how to look to things but in the same time when they try to apply my solution into their environment, it never fit and I started to receive feedback into my DM asking what might be wrong? as the solution theoretically seem doable and easy. Here come the environment affect, the community habits (which is more influencing than the Right/Wrong book), the close group believe about the solution and how it affect them, so even if it is a beneficial in the long run, they might react negatively toward this change it will affect them directly.
And with the increase with the negative application of what I am suggesting, I started to accept the fact that I can’t help everyone, I can’t help people in non peaceful and non flexible to change environment and I started to realize that each person struggle suppose to be something unique as it designed to that individual treats, each person in life has his own test that will lead him to his purpose, his life meaning … interfering in that will just delay his growth process like the lesson of the butterfly story by Paulo Coelho.
A man spent hours watching a butterfly struggling to emerge from its cocoon. It managed to make a small hole, but its body was too large to get through it. After a long struggle, it appeared to be exhausted and remained absolutely still.
The man decided to help the butterfly and, with a pair of scissors, he cut open the cocoon, thus releasing the butterfly. However, the butterfly’s body was very small and wrinkled and its wings were all crumpled.
The man continued to watch, hoping that, at any moment, the butterfly would open its wings and fly away. Nothing happened; in fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its brief life dragging around its shrunken body and shrivelled wings, incapable of flight.
What the man – out of kindness and his eagerness to help – had failed to understand was that the tight cocoon and the efforts that the butterfly had to make in order to squeeze out of that tiny hole were Nature’s way of training the butterfly and of strengthening its wings.
Sometimes, a little extra effort is precisely what prepares us for the next obstacle to be faced. Anyone who refuses to make that effort, or gets the wrong sort of help, is left unprepared to fight the next battle and never manages to fly off to their destiny.